Germans don't do small talk with strangers — but once you're a friend, you're a friend for life. The complete guide.
Germans separate acquaintance from friendship very clearly. Casual conversation with strangers is unusual — but friendships, once formed, are extraordinarily loyal and long-lasting.
In professional settings, 'Sie' is default until invited to switch. Younger Germans often switch to 'Du' quickly socially. Never assume — wait for the invitation.
Best approach: shared regular activities — sports clubs (Verein), neighbourhood groups, language tandems. Germans invest deeply in few close friendships. Give it 6–12 months.
WhatsApp groups, Diwali events, cricket clubs, temple communities — invaluable for practical help on arrival. Use these as your base while building broader connections.
Don't ask about salary, weight or relationships early in a friendship. Do make exact plans — 'let's meet sometime' is not a plan in Germany. Sunday is quiet time.
